Values, the Jungle & the Bush

I felt an immediacy about being in the remote Amazon jungle where I stayed with the headhunting Shuar tribe. I felt the same thing last summer when I stayed in a remote, primitive village in Malawi, Africa’s poorest country. Both places called me to a presence that I don’t usually experience here in my cushy life in Pennsylvania.

Those treks and others taught me a lot about being in the “zone” of presence – personally and professionally. In remote places, you have to be very mindful when you’re doing the simplest things – going to the bathroom, getting anywhere, making sure  24-7 that you don’t get bitten by tiny and humongous insects, making sure you can physically put one foot in front of the other and live to tell about where you got to…

I was thinking that values-driven leadership is a lot like bushwhacking through the jungle and managing my broken leg in the Malawi bush because, just like surviving and thriving on the edge of civilization, creating a values-driven world has everything to do with where I put my feet, my hands, my mouth and my money – right here, right now.

Living our values has to be personal but we also need a stronger collective presence to what’s going on at a global level. It’s past time for the world’s economic leaders to rise to new levels of immediacy about our commitment to liberty and justice for all – no matter how deep the mud, how hot the air, or how big the bugs. It’s time to place higher social value on values immediately and presently – it’s the best way to survive and thrive.

In my work with visionary leaders at the United Nations and with coaching/consulting clients, I’ve learned that being fully present to our personal, professional and global lives isn’t always the prettiest position to sit in, but ultimately, it’s the most powerful.

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Change

Change is the only constant. Coaching helps you best negotiate it so that you

  • keep the winds of change at your back
  • ride the tides of change with grace
  • walk the ground of change with balance and joy
  • use the charge of change to transform potential into reality.

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Questions

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves…Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” —Rainer Maria Rilke

Such wise words – I think my most important contribution to my clients is my ability to question and to be comfortable with open questions. I find that when I personally, or my clients focus too hard on answers, that important questions are left unasked. The hard part for me is my own impatience with living in question. But when I find the grace to do that, the magic of open inquiry happens and I find answers to so much more than what I was asking about.

In coaching terms, it’s the difference between answers and solutions. Answers satisfy the moment but solutions are sustainable over time. Deeply sustainable success, the kind that’s full of vitality, requires that we sometimes heed Rilke’s advice (given in the early 1900’s) and learn to love our questions and to live our questions.

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From Hopi elders

A Message from the Hopi Elders for 2010

You have been telling people this is the Eleventh Hour.
Now you must go back and tell the people that this is The Hour.
Here are the things that must be considered:
Where are you living?
What are you doing?
What are your relationships?
Are you in right relation?
Where is your water?
Know your garden.
It is time to speak your Truth.
Create your community.
Be good to each other.
And do not look outside yourself for the leader.

This could be a good time!

There is a river flowing now very fast.
It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid.
They will try to hold on to the shore.
They will feel like they are being torn apart, and they will suffer greatly.

Know the river has its destination.

The elders say we must  let go of the shore, push off toward the middle of
the river, keep your eyes open, and our heads above the water.

See who is here with you and celebrate.

At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally, least of all
ourselves!   For the moment we do, our spiritual growth and journey comes to a halt.

The time of the lonely wolf is over.
Gather yourselves!

Banish the word struggle from your attitude and vocabulary.

All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration.

We are the ones we have been waiting for.

The Elders
Oraibi, Arizona
Hopi Nation

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Rubbing up against everything

At a Greendrinks networking event I met a guy in the heating business. He asked me if I ever wondered why a certain temperature in the summer feels fine but in the winter feels chilly. He explained that the walls and objects are literally using us as a heat supply. We rarely think of our own role in the chain of heat distribution.

And rarely do we think about the universal impact we make along the way of creating a robust career track. We rarely think about how we might be interdependent rootswarming up the next guy – whether we want to or not. We rarely account for the fact that when a butterfly flaps its wings in Hong Kong, the effects are felt in NY.  In the moment, it is impossible to comprehend the ultimate impact of a decision. But we know that when people feel in sync with the rippling of the sea around themselves, they tend to make more sustainable choices that are  more beneficial to themselves and to others.

You can work in resistance of a flow you can’t change or you can do what they advised in the 60’s: go with the flow. No matter which you choose, you’ll be rubbing up against more people in more dimensions of your life than humans  ever have before. Just like the elements of a room warm and take warmth from one another, we are impacting each other and the world around us in ways we’ve only begun to grasp.

Just like the infrared rays that naturally flow from our bodies to the walls and objects around us, we seem to have all sorts of interdependent energetic flows amongst us. We can clearly measure a little bit about those flows but in most professional computations we don’t. It will likely be a few generations before we understand how our interdependence works and how to work with it, but we already know that, in terms of making a living, every level of the food chain verifies the value of working in balance with the flow of life around you.

It’s statistically clear now that, when interlinked systems cooperate, life flourishes; and when they don’t, life suffers. The more consciousness someone develops about the more universal aspects of bumping up against each other, the more responsibility that person has for playing the prophetic role of demanding results for the highest good for all affected. The Natives taught us, in every deliberation, to consider the highest good for 7 generations. In this culture of quarterly-profits-driven decision-making,  questions of highest good stand on risky ground.

The bottom line results of  making conscious, values-driven choices confirm that the Golden Rule rules. There is a version of the Golden Rule in every major religion so we’ve had agreement on it all over the world for centuries yet we’ve created a world-dominating infrastructure that’s based on its disregard. We’ve had cultural amnesia for the Golden Rule-based world we’re hard-wired to want. We are waking up – learning to better connect the dots between everyday decisions, abundance, and handing a world we feel good about off to our grandkids.

But even tho0ugh we now know unequivocally that there are the resources on the planet to feed, shelter and educate every child born (which would greatly alleviate the incentives for war), we’ve created a world that won’t. We need to reinvent systems that go against the flow of Humanitarianism – starting with Capitalism. Because it’s like a Cathch-22 – we’re all functioning in the economic flow of a system that does not adhere to the Golden Rule, but we’ve defined success by its standards.

It’s not always easy to stand firmly in your own standards but it’s the only way to truly create the work you love, the life you desire and the world we all want to live in. Take the risk: Don’t choose what you think you should, stand where you know you must.

Coaching questions:

What in your professional life feels like it’s not flowing? What would make your work flow better?
How are you”should-ing” on yourself? Who are you should-ing on and when will you stop?
Where is the Golden Rule compromised in your life – on the giving and receiving ends?
What risk will you take this week?

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Friends

“Each friend represents a world in us,
a world possibly not born until they arrive,
and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
–Anais Nin

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People think developing friendships is immaterial to their work. To the contrary, the more worlds you open up in your personal life, the more likely that worlds will open up in your professional life – and vice versa.

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The Paradox of Our Time

This has been around the internet so many times, I hesitated to post it. But the wisdom is timeless and worth reading over time. I originally posted this as George Carlin’s piece. I’ve since found out from his daughter, Kelly Carlin, that he didn’t write it. In his denial of authorship, he said he thought it was “a sappy load of ….” He’s right in some ways – plus it errs too much on the judgmental side for my taste. But, in other ways, I think sappy saps us for a reason.

The Paradox of our Time
by Dr. Bob Moorehead

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.

We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete…

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent. Remember, to say, ‘ I love you ‘ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

George CarlinWis

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GDI: Visionary Series at UN Foundation

After a Visionary Series Dialog

After a Visionary Series Dialog

Dr. Joni Carley, Dr. Kishore Mandhyan, Ms. Alisa Clarke

Here’s a response sent the day after the  program I moderated at the United Nations Foundation this week with Dr. Kishore Mandhyan, a member of the Secretary General’s team. (Check out our work there: Global Vision Institute)

Thank you! for your invitation to the talk today. It was a special moment in my life: a soul and mind reawakening, a hands on to act.

Thank you.

Warm regards,
Economic Affairs Officer, UN

Global Vision Institute

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“What Will Matter” By Michael Josephson

Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end.

There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.
All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten
will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations
and jealousies will finally disappear.

So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire.
The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.

It won’t matter where you came from
or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end.
It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter?
How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you boughtMorning Glory
but what you built, not what you got but what you gave.

What will matter is not your success
but your significance.

What will matter is not what you learned
but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity,
compassion, courage, or sacrifice
that enriched, empowered or encouraged others
to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence
but your character.

What will matter is not how many people you knew,
but how many will feel a lasting loss when you’re gone.

What will matter is not your memories
but the memories that live in those who loved you.

What will matter is how long you will be remembered,
by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident.
It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.

Choose to live a life that matters.

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Macrina Wiederkehr, In The Circle of Life:

Listening to Winter

The trees have shed their colorful autumn robes.
Winter is raging through the dark, empty branches
and I am listening.
I am listening to the roar and to the quiet of winter.
I am listening to a beauty
that sometimes remains unseen.

I am listening.

I am listening to the seed hidden in the earth.
I am listening to the dark swallowing up the light.
I am listening to faith rising out of doubt.
I am listening to the need to believe without seeing.

I am listening.

I am listening to the season of contemplation,
to the urgency of our world’s need for reflection.
I am listening to all that waits within the earth,
to bulbs and seeds,
to deep roots dreaming.
I am listening to the sacred, winter rest.

I am listening.

I am listening to long nights,
comforting darkness,
fruitful darkness,
beautiful darkness.
I am listening to the darkness of the winter season.
I am listening to the sparks of hope within the darkness.

I am listening.

I am listening to storms raging out my window,
to storms raging in my heart.
I am listening to all that makes me pull my cloak a little tighter.
I am listening to trust buried deep in the ground of my being.

I am listening.

I am listening to the kind permission of the season
to rest more often,
to reflect more deeply,
to pray without words.
I am listening to the sacrament of non􏰀doing.

I am listening.

I am listening to my dreams and inner visions,
to the unknown wrapped in the mystery of my life,
to tears trapped in underground streams of my being,
to seeds watered daily by those tears.

I am listening.

I am listening to the quiet life in winter’s womb.
I am listening to winter, nurturing spring.
I am listening to brilliant winter sunsets
and lovely frosty mornings.
I am listening to snowflakes flying through the air,
to the cold winds that often blow out there,
to bare trees, so lovely in their emptiness,
to one leaf that never did let go.

I am listening.

I am listening to winter
handing over spring.
I am listening to the poetry of winter.

I am listening.

􏰀 Macrina Wiederkehr, in The Circle of Life:
The Heart’s Journey through the Seasons,
by Joyce Rupp & Macrina Wiederkehr

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